• 2010 Reading List

    What I've read this year:

    "The Other Queen" by Phillipa Gregory (Rating: C)

    "The Welsh Girl" by Peter Ho Davies (Rating: A)

    "Mistress of the Sun" by Sandra Gulland (Rating: A)

Health Care Reform

I’ve been absent from this space for the past few days, but it has been for a wonderful reason. I’ve been marinating in some really great news, and have been giving myself the opportunity to soak it in. I will soon be making a career change, and couldn’t be more thrilled!

In just a few short weeks, I will be going to work for a wonderful, nationally influential not-for-profit, putting my talents and skills to use to help educate women about breast cancer, and hopefully doing a small part to eventually eradicate this disease. I’ve been wanting to “do more” for a long time, and my brain still can’t quite comprehend that this goal is being realized. I am still processing, but wanted to stop in today to share with you something very important.

"The Times They Are A-Changing" (but only if you take action!)

Today is the virtual march on Washington DC, in which we are demanding health care reform. Please, take a few minutes, and visit www.moveon.org. Through the website, you can fax, call, and/or email your Senators, and express your desire for reform. We all know how important this is, and I’m sure you are getting as frustrated as I am. However, today is the day to do something – to take action, and let our voices be heard.

Chinese New Year

Gong hei fat choi!

(Roughly translated, that means “Congratulations and be prosperous!”)

This weekend is the festival of the Chinese New Year, and although my family has absolutely no ties to the Chinese culture, I adore this holiday. A few years ago I hosted an event for work including traditional foods, dances, and gifts for the holiday. It is an amazing tradition with a long and complex history, and an endless number of ways in which to celebrate the occasion. After that first encounter, I’ve kept Chinese New Year on my radar, and have looked forward to introducing the Peanut to the festivities.

Lion Dance

Just a few miles from our home is “The Peaceful Dragon.” This is a large facility that teaches Kung Fu, Tai Chi, along with a variety of other martial arts, and it is incredibly authentic to the practices and traditions of the Chinese culture. They hosted their annual New Year celebration last weekend, and we all bundled up and headed over to participate.

The celebration began with the traditional lion dance. Two kung fu students act out the role of the lion, dancing throughout the room, and eventually eating cabbage, then spitting it back out into the audience. If you are lucky enough to get hit with the cabbage, you are looking forward to a prosperous new year! Unfortunately for us, none of our clan got any cabbage…

Dragon dance

Next came the dragon dance, along with the firecrackers that were set off, startling the Peanut, and causing him to jump out of his seat and laugh hysterically!

The school’s students conducted some incredible demonstrations, including using bo staffs, broad swords, fans, and spears. It was incredible to see how they used these weapons in such a beautiful way. One of the things that I love about The Peaceful Dragon is their commitment to the idea that Kung Fu is a personal discipline, and not something that is used to teach aggressiveness. Throughout the demonstrations, they repeatedly mentioned that the students hope to never use their skills outside of the facility, and that the greatest lesson in Kung Fu is the development of self-control. “You cannot make me harm you – that is a decision that only I can make.” What a great thing to be heard in our society – let’s spread that one around some more, please!

They also did a brief yoga demo, which I found very interesting. It was so different than the yoga I am used to, and was amazing to watch.

Yoga demo - head stand - wow!

We are hoping that we will be able to get my two guys into their program over the next year. Alan is really wanting to get into the program, having studied martial arts as a child. And we both think that this would be a great thing for the Peanut as well. He is such a loving and happy child, but he tends to crumble when he feels like he has “failed.” We are continually trying to reassure him that mistakes are good and allow us to learn, but his personality is just so loving and sweet that he is terrified of disappointing others. I can totally identify with that one, and hope that we can help him work through it. We think that the confidence and discipline that comes with martial arts would be a huge boost for him. Hopefully we will be able to swing the fees in the near future, and maybe they will be able to perform at next year’s festival!

Great Backyard Bird Count

In just about a week, the 13th Annual Great Backyard Bird Count begins! This is the first year that my family will officially be participating, but I’m really excited about it. We’ve been keeping our yard stocked with special bird treats over the past few weeks, in the hopes of attracting some new feathery friends to our space. If you’ve never participated, or don’t know about the Great Backyard Bird Count, here are the simple things that you need to know, directly from the website www.birdsource.org/gbbc/howto.html.

Also, check out the Audubon Society’s website fora couple of great bird games for the kids (www.audubon.org/educate).

1. Plan to count birds for at least 15 minutes on one or more days of the count. You can count for longer than that if you wish! Count birds in as many places and on as many days as you like—one day, two days, or all four days. Submit a separate checklist for each new day. You can also submit more than one checklist per day if you count in other locations on that day.

2. Count the greatest number of individuals of each species that you see together at any one time. You may find it helpful to print out your regional bird checklist to get an idea of the kinds of birds you’re likely to see in your area in February. You could take note of the highest number of each species you see on this checklist.

3. When you’re finished, enter your results through our web page. You’ll see a button marked “Enter Your Checklists!” on the website home page beginning on the first day of the count. It will remain active until the deadline for data submission on March 1st.

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Carolina Wren, Jim Lockyer, CA, 2009 GBBC

Other helpful tools and information:

  • Data form. Some people find it helpful to fill out the form before entering it on the website. By printing it off ahead of time, they know what information they need to be aware of, such as snow depth, for example.
  • GBBC Photo Contest rules

Playing hooky in the woods

Yesterday I played hooky. I needed a mental health day, so I took the day off, and spent it at home and in the woods. Over the past three or four days, my brain has been going into overdrive. I lay in bed at night, tossing and turning, thinking about a million different things, and willing myself to fall asleep, wanting to wake-up my husband just to say “I can’t sleep!” It is the most frustrating feeling in the world…

I’ve been looking for a new job for the past few months, with little luck. There have been a multitude of applications sent out for positions which I am over-qualified, and yet I don’t get a response. And then, last week, I got a phone call wanting to schedule a phone interview. It couldn’t have come at a better time. I had been in a meeting all evening, dealing with negativity, swallowing my pride, and realizing just how much my job has changed in the past 6 months. I walked out of the meeting feeling physically heavy, and emotionally broken. And then I heard a voice mail about a phone interview.

We talked for 30 minutes on Friday, and the conversation was incredible. The position is right up my alley, with a non-profit that I greatly admire. It would be an amazing change of pace, and something that I feel will reignite my passion for my career. Tomorrow I have an interview with the Director, and I am starting to get nervous. I don’t deal well with nervousness. It is something that I don’t feel often. I’ve interviewed for countless things before, and not felt the anticipation that I’m feeling now. This is the number one contributing factor to my restlessness this week.

Marco enjoying his freedom

So, I played hooky yesterday. I took the Peanut to school, came back home, and walked in the woods with Marco for most of the morning. It was great to just forget about the pressure I’m putting upon myself this week, and just walk and relax. Unfortunately, the relaxation did not remain until bedtime…I still ended up tossing and turning most of the night. However, I’m hoping and praying that tomorrow will go extremely well, despite the bags under my eyes, and that I will be called back in for a final interview with the board. So, I’m asking for good thoughts and prayers regarding this interview. I’m hoping that this is the right opportunity for me, and that I will soon find myself in a new, positive, and meaningful work environment. Fingers crossed!

Vegetables for breakfast & dinner

Last Wednesday I found myself off of work on a weekday, with the Peanut in school, and the house to myself. I had every intention of sitting back, reading, doing some light cleaning, and then making dinner, but that didn’t happen. Instead, I spent the entire day cooking – it was wonderful!

I had been asked told to make more pancakes for breakfast, so those were first on my list. I always make sweet potato pancakes.  They are incredibly tasty, much more flavorful than the standard pancake, and I get to feel good about sneaking in a veggie for breakfast. About once a month I make a batch, freeze them, and – voila! – a quick and satisfying weekday breakfast option.  These happen to be one of the Peanut’s favorites. First of all, they are orange, and he loves anything orange. Add a schmear of Nutella, and then folded in half like a taco, and he is a happy kid!

My second task was making some vegetable broth to be used for that evening’s dinner, and some extra for freezing.I tried out a new combo, and it came out really rich and hearty. Here is what I used…

1 red bell pepper

1 green pepper

1 onion

1 lb carrots

1lb celery

1lb tomatoes

1 lb turnips

I roughly chopped them (large chunks work well and save time) and put them in a roasting pan with a couple of tablespoons of olive oil, 3 bay leaves, 6 cloves of  smashed garlic and some black pepper. I let them roast at 450 for about 2 hours (maybe a little less), until everything was nicely browned. After quickly running a knife over some of the larger pieces, I added the veggies to a stock pot with water, and let them simmer for about another 2 hours. I scooped out about a third of the veggies to freeze for a future soup, removed about a third of the broth to freeze, added some pre-soaked beans for dinner that evening. The flavor of this broth was really flavorful, and much deeper than your standard vegetable broth. I could have eaten a bowl of this with a piece of bread by itself – it was really that good.

I also made a batch of cream biscuits, sugar cookies, and chocolate chip cookies as well. It was a day of cooking, freezing, and eating cookie dough…what can I say – I can’t resist licking the spatula!

Blog pulse check

Yes, I have been missing from this space for quite awhile. I knew that it had been awhile, but looking back, my last entry was the beginning of September. Wow…that was a long time ago, yet at the same time, it feels like just a few short weeks.

Our family has spent the past four months getting adjusted to being in school, and the incredible number of changes that has resulted in for us. The experience has been positive overall, but also a lot to deal with. My hubby and I both work outside of the home, and, as I’ve mentioned before, my hours can fluctuate greatly week to week. On average, I’m home around 6:15. That makes dinner, bath & bed a rapid process, as we try to have the Peanut in bed by 7:30-7:45. Needless to say, there were many nights that we were feeling frantic, not really communicating with each other, and overwhelmed with our new reality.Over the past month or two, we have been focusing on ways to reduce the stress and increase the quality family time.

Now that we are feeling a little more put together, I’m thinking that I may be able to return to this place. Not only have I missed sharing my world, but I’ve missed reading about yours. I’ve been completely removed from the blog world for four months, and am eager to return to catch up on what so many of you have been doing. So, forgive me for my absence (if any of you are still out there), and be prepared to forgive me if I disappear again a week or two at a time. I am going to make a conscious effort to take the time to visit you weekly (and more, if life allows), but I am sure that there will be ups and downs throughout the coming months. I’m okay with that, and I hope you are as well!

Although it is a little late, happy holidays, and I wish you all peace and happiness in 2010!

What to do…

I encountered a very difficult situation today, and I just need to vent about it.

There is a certain child that I know. He is adorable, sweet, and a funny little boy. He is not yet four years old, but developmentally seems closer to 2 maybe 3. I get to interact with him about 2 or 3 times a month. He can be amazingly fun, or insanely trying, depending upon his mood and the situation. As far as I know, he has not been diagnosed with any special needs, although it seems to me as though he could benefit greatly from some specialized attention.

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I overhead a “conversation”  between him and his father tonight, and it just broke my heart. The child was crying, and the father was done. His tone was incredibly harsh, he was repeatedly demanding that the child “just stop crying,” and his body language clearly communicated that this encounter was the last thing that he needed.

I’ve witnessed similar interactions before, and they make me feel incredibly awkward. I know that all parents get to that point at times with our children where we are frustrated, and just trying with every fiber to not let them see the actual level of our emotions. But, it seems from my limited perspective that this tone of voice and level of frustration is the norm, not the exception.

I wish that there was a way for me to say something that let’s him see himself from other’s eyes. But, knowing this individual, and the nature of our relationship, it would not be in the boy’s best interest.

The silver lining (because I am a firm believer that they are always there) is that his mother is wonderful. She sees his needs, and meets them. She doesn’t let her partner’s frustrations rub off on her, nor does she react to his tone in a way that will make the child even more aware of the tension. I can’t imagine doing as well as she does…

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At any opportunity I have, I point out the good and the exceptional things that this child does, hoping to clear the fog that is clouding the father’s vision. He seems stuck in seeing the child in one light only, and doesn’t seem to understand that he has the ability to change the situation by changing his attitude. I hope that my little comments and affirmation can help the father and child find a better way to communicate with each other.

(Another silver lining – my lilies that I planted in March have finally bloomed! I just love lilies!)